Breaking Bad Habits, Christianity

Sayings Jesus Never Said

There are many sayings out there that “Christians” tend to use that aren’t true. These sayings are misinterpretations of Scripture and a misunderstanding of God. I hope this post clears some of these sayings up. Check them out:

“God gives his hardest battles to his toughest soldiers.” Where did this come from? It’s not true. We all have hard battles. Life is hard. Who decides who God’s “toughest soldiers” are and why would God handpick certain individuals to carry the hard battles? Will certain people in this world not carry hard battles?

“God will never give you more than you can bear.” Things Jesus never said. There are going to be in fact many burdens that you cannot bear. There are going to be many storms in life that completely break you, make you feel desperate and of no power to move forward. It’s not about what you can bear anyways. May we get to a point that we begin to say, “I have some burdens that I cannot bear and I need to hand them over to You Lord.” – See Matthew 11:28-30

The sufferings that we face are not apart from God nor were we created to suffer alone. Our sufferings help us encounter God and place our hope and trust in Him.

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Breaking Bad Habits, Christianity, Life, Moving Forward

Remember Your Story

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11/10/15 – Today, I realized I am living out a dream. A dream that I remember envisioning as a teen. I knew God had big plans for my life and a huge calling for me to walk into, I just didn’t know how God would get me there and to where I am today.

I am so thankful to know He cared about my future even when I struggled to see past my present situation as a troubled teen.

Growing up in the hood and being from the inner city, there were so many moments where I was hopeless. Being surrounded by negativity, influenced to do wrong and actively participating in bad choices, there were times where I thought, this is how my life will continue to be.

At the age of 16, I was selling weed at school, smoking weed before school, smoking before basketball games, getting drunk, skipping school, grades were at an all time low, emotionally unstable, on probation and ready to give up on a promising future.

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Today, I am a pastor, a high school basketball coach, a teacher at a college, a mentor, leader, college graduate and a husband. I share this because often as teens, we cannot see past our current struggles. We can’t see past our current false reality.

I am here to let you know, God can bring change, He can help you overcome, and He can get you out of your mess. It’s going to take some sacrifice, getting with the right people and letting go of the wrong people.

God has huge plans for you. Believe it, pray on it and act on it.

God bless you

#BetterThanYesterday

P.S.  Always be willing to share your story and your personal victories in life. Someone needs to hear them.

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Breaking Bad Habits, Moving Forward

Patterns

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I love when God gives me revelation and new insights to my life. The other day I was driving down the road and I began to think about patterns in my life, even certain patterns since child hood. The wheels began to turn (no pun intended) in my mind. What I am going to share with you are battles I have faced or face. I believe these battles with patterns may help some of you with certain patterns in your life. If we can recognize what patterns affect us negatively I believe we can bring great change to our lives!

Okay, here are some patterns I have observed in my life: 

Pattern of word without great follow through: Meaning, we give our word to something. We get excited and want to be apart something life changing and great but our follow up and follow through with our word/action is not our best effort. Can you relate?

Pattern of commitment for a short period of time: This kind of goes hand and hand with the first one but differs in a sense. With this pattern we are committed for a period of time and we slowly begin to either fade away or completely drop off.

*Short time commitments can be good but if others do not know upfront how long you plan on being committed, you will hurt others more than yourself. Not a good recipe for success and bridge building.*

Pattern of progress and then drop off: You’re working hard, you are progressing, you begin to see results and then you stop working as hard. This I see often when it comes to eating healthier and working out to get in better physical shape.

Pattern of achieving what you want and then complacency sets in: You worked hard to get what you want, to get to where you wanted to be, you achieved something and now that it is achieved you’re not motivated to keep on pushing.

I wanted to share these and be transparent with you because I know these patterns aren’t just present in my life but in the lives of others as well. In my line of work, in my friendships and relationships I have conversations and from my observation and conversations I realize with these patterns I am not the only one that struggles and battles with these in life.

What are we to do? How can we truly create change and mean it?

Here is where I am landing and have landed:

  • Create accountability with someone fighting the same battle.
  • Do one thing at a time.
  • Say no and don’t feel bad about it.
  • Pray really hard and often.
  • Find the root problem of the pattern.
  • Ask yourself, why is this pattern so significant and why is it there?
  • Seek wise counseling about the patterns in your life.
  • Hold yourself accountable.
  • Do not self condemn when you fall short or mess up.

The unique thing about patterns are, you can create new ones. Patterns aren’t set up for one specific design. They can be altered to create new ones. Whatever patterns you have identified in your life, it is time to make some adjustments. It’s time to make some shifts. It is time to be the designer. We have to grab a hold of our lives and there is no better time than right now. There is power in patterns. Let’s let the power of patterns in our life effect us in positive ways.

P.S. – I would love to hear from you. What are some patterns you’ve noticed in your life? What are you willing to share about this to help others?

Breaking Bad Habits

Breaking Bad Habits

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A bad habit is a negative behavioral pattern. It is a behavior pattern that is detrimental to your life. Someone once said, “A bad habit is like a comfortable bed. It is easy to get into but hard to get out of.” There are several bad habits in my life that I want and need to get out of. I’ll even take it a step further. There are bad habits that I’ve been carrying around for quite some time and now, I am in the place I am in because of not making changes.

Here are a few bad habits that I have:

My eating habits. – Meaning the times I eat, what I put into my body and my love for sweets. It’s insane! Cupcakes and oreos are my kryptonite. 🙂

Procrastination. – Waiting until the last minute, being lazy, not doing what needs to be done ahead of time and then scrambling at the last minute to get things done.

Lack of exercise. – Working out a couple of times a week, feeling like I achieved something knowing I need to stick to a consistent schedule to see better results.

Sleeping patterns. – Staying up into the late hours of the night. Fighting to get out of the bed early in the morning. This happens way too often.

The time I spend with God. – When I spend time with God out of duty and not out of love. That’s a major problem.

Social Media: – Spending countless amount of time on social networks. You know what I mean, spending too much time browsing, laughing and sharing.

I’m sure I can add something else to this list but I’ll stop with these 6 bad habits. I don’t want to overwhelm you or myself. It is likely you have some bad habits you are carrying around. If you’re like me, you want change, in fact you desire change but you seem to find yourself in a comfortable bed as well. Here are some questions for us who are stuck in the bed, wanting to get out to ponder on:

When is enough, enough? – For real!

How many times are you going to start and stop? – We are like walking stop watches. :/

When will you stop talking about it and just do it? – Shout out to Nike!

When will you make the decision to break your bad habits? – Hopefully you start now!

The power, the choice, the decision is in your hand. For the next 21 days, I will be embarking in the journey to break these habits that I listed above. Many say it takes 21 days to break and create habits. I’ve tried this out before, and it is true. I know it’s going to take some dedication, sacrifice, some determination and some plain out shut your mouth and get it done type of mentality. I’m up for the journey of becoming better. Are you?

Over the next 21 days, try to do something different. Challenge yourself. Wake up earlier. Go to bed earlier. Read a book. Extend your prayer time. Try running an extra mile. Read a Proverb a day for a month. Instead of eating out, cook a healthy meal. (If you can’t cook, go out to eat!) Eat some fruit instead of chocolate. (I need your prayers on this one). On a serious note. Let’s be the change that we want to see. I’m rooting for you!