Phone Boundaries


The power of the cell phone! 10 years ago, who would have thought a mobile device would perhaps control our lives and have such a huge impact on pretty much all that we do. My cell phone (#TeamiPhone) is a great addition to my life. It helps me communicate, remember meetings, keep up with friends, family, share special moments in my life, listen to music, takes notes and a variety of other wonderful things. But… there is a huge downside to having a cell phone. I am always on and never off. What I mean is, I am so attached to my phone, I feel sometimes I am missing out on what’s in front of me. Please do not tell me I am the only one.In fact, I know I am not.

Seriously, think about how much time you spend on your phone throughout the day. Think about how much time you are on your social networks. I am pretty sure it’s well over a hour. I would even say some of us are over two hours a day being on our phones. My question is: where do we begin to create boundaries between ourselves and our mobile devices?

I am beginning on a journey to create some phone boundaries in my life. For one hour each day I wake up I will not be on my cellular device. In fact, I am going to take full advantage of the do not disturb option. At night, I am going to use another one of my hours before I go to bed to step away from my cell phone. I am a night owl and I realize a lot of why I stay up late is because I’m watching basketball, trying to do homework, catching up with my wife and on different social networks.

Here is my theory. If I can step away from my phone at a certain time each night, I believe this will allow me to be more effective in my time with my wife, my thoughts and with my education. Mobile devices are wonderful but I am disturbed having something influence my life so much to where it has control over me. There are some things I need to shut down in my life, there are some bad habits I need to break and there are some things I need to get better at; having control of my time on my mobile device is one of them.

Maybe you are reading this and you are saying to yourself, “I don’t have phone and boundary issues.” Well, this blog post isn’t for you. πŸ™‚ Kidding, sort of. What you could do, since you don’t have phone boundary issues is tell us some of your tricks to the trade. How do you manage your time with your phone? How do you manage your time on social media? What time do you shut down your mobile device each day? Help us people who struggle with our mobile devices out! We want to step away and be more present but we need some help!

Share this blog post with your friends and let’s get some conversation going about how to best set better boundaries in our life. Let’s start with the use of our cell phone.

The Frustrations of Bad Rhythm


Rhythm is systematic in its essence. Rhythm has a repetitive pattern in which it follows. Think of your heart. Our hearts follow a certain pattern. Sometimes our hearts rhythm speeds up and other times our hearts rhythm slows down. Our lives can be the same way.

There are certain days, weeks and even months where we have to speed up the order in which we do life. There are other times where life seems to be moving slow. Whether life is moving fast or slow for you right now there is something to be said when our rhythm to life is flowing the way we would like.

Like many, I love a good rhythm to a song, melody or to a beat. Nothing irks my soul more than not being able to groove or find the rhythm to a song. Its like the person in church clapping off beat to your favorite worship song. πŸ™‚ Okay maybe it is not that serious but I’m trying to stress my point. When life is off beat, when our rhythm to life is out of sync, we as people of pattern tend to get mentally frustrated.

Maybe I am speaking for myself. I am a person who values discipline, structure and principles. I believe the people who are most successful in life have a healthy balance of rhythm in their life. They understand their day-to-day schedule, their monthly schedule and even their yearly schedules. So what can be done for those of us whose rhythm is off beat?

First, we need to find out why our rhythm is off. What is pulling at our time? Who is draining our energy? What do we need to start doing? What do we need to stop doing? I believe these are questions to help get us going in the right direction. Being able to daily reflect on life, journal, self assess and find time to listen to your soul and God can help us understand why our rhythms aren’t good.

No one likes to live in frustration. Just like no one likes a dance partner who cannot keep up on the dance floor. πŸ˜‰ It is time to find our rhythm to life. It is time to make the necessary changes. Sometimes this means we have to let go of the good to get to great. Creating repetitive good habits, principles and disciplines to our lives will help get us to walking away from frustration and to a life of peace.

What do you do when your life is not in sync?

What helps you find your rhythm?

Please feel free to comment below!